Being in a marriage can be hard at times, as we may feel that our significant other may get distancing themselves from us. Have you ever wondered if there could be a way to bond again? If your marriage is going through the rocks, there’s a study that says if you do this one thing, you may be able to save your marriage.
It’s hard to believe this claim, but the data this study provides is hard to neglect. Not only that, but you can save time from going to couples therapy by just doing this.
The study claims that after couples did this one thing, divorce rates were halved. That is pretty impacting.
Published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, this three year study compared three different marriage intervention groups and a control group. The first group focused on conflict management. Here participants were taught active listening skills and how they can slow down the pace of an argument.
The second group focused on compassion and acceptance. Here married couples were taught how to appreciate their relationship more and how to better communicate acceptance.
The third group was called movie and talk. The couples in this group watched movies about relationships after having a 10 minute lecture of how watching romantic movies can help improve a relationship.
Even though all groups showed success, researchers were surprised that the movie and talk group showed equal success rates. The study’s lead researcher, Ronald Rogge, claims this phenomenon is due to the fact that the movie and talk group didn’t feel like they were undergoing couples therapy, as compared to the other two groups.
He also continued to say that he believed that couples who watched romantic movies and talked about their relationship would help, but he didn’t predict to this extent.
“The results suggest that husbands and wives have a pretty good sense of what they might be doing right and wrong in their relationships. Thus, you might not need to teach them a whole lot of skills to cut the divorce rate. You might just need to get them to think about how they are currently behaving. And for five movies to give us a benefit over three years–that is awesome.”
You might not get your partner easily to join a marriage therapy group, but watching a movie and talking about your relationship is less stigmatizing and easier to do. Perhaps this could even save your marriage. When you can get your partner talking about your relationship, a productive dialogue happens, letting the both sides know what to work on to fix existing issues.
Here’s an interesting video where Rogge explains more about this study. Please share if you enjoyed!